Wedding Stress – 10 tips for Transformation

Success in marriage is much more than finding the right person, it is a matter of being the right person BR Brickner

Although human beings are born with a desire to love, and eventually choose a person to marry, the rite of passage is not always a smooth journey.
We believe that the wedding preparations are also an opportunity for couples to grow in love, friendship, communication and understanding. They can learn the tools to overcome challenges that arise during the wedding planning, and this will help build a stronger foundation for the wedding day and beyond.

Many other cultures offer “rite of passage” ceremonies that metaphysically, physically and emotionally prepare the bride and groom for their new life together. Although they may not be ideal, they do offer some insights into the transition from me to we.
Our culture concentrates mostly on the homogenized catered affair, which can be wonderful, but may lead to excessive stress and/or disaster i.e. bridezilla, bridal jitters, overwhelm and the runaway bride syndrome.
The quest for perfection and the ideal wedding often interfere with the relationship of the bride and groom as well as their friends and family. And all the skeletons in the closet emerge in full bloom!

Couples sometimes need a little help to remember why they are getting married, how to be true to themselves, have a wedding that reflects that, and which sets the tone and foundation for their wedding and beyond..

Managing Stress is one of the first steps. It’s easier to remember those things when you are calm, relaxed, and enjoying the process!

10 stress tips for Brides and Grooms:

• Setting goals is the key to reducing stress and staying healthy during your wedding planning.
• It’s important for you to keep your body nourished with healthy and sustaining
foods
• Drink plenty of water
• Get enough Sleep
• Love yourself, love your body,
• If you really want to lose weight, do it before you go shopping for your dress!
• Delegate tasks
• Use a relaxation technique… daily!
• Keep up your exercise program even if you need to modify it in your extra busy times
• ,Love your partner, remember to listen, and do something extra for them when you can

Remember…

1) Look after your body and you will have all the energy you need for your wedding planning and ceremony.

2) Your bride/groom fell in love with you just the way you are!

3) Be who you are and let the wedding fall in place

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Why Wedding Professionals?

Marriages are made in heaven,
but they are lived on earth.

Nathan Gist

Who’s going to help you achieve your dream?
Our advice: Get a wedding planner. Of course, you have two choices about that.
You can get a book, or you can hire a professional. Both of these choices offer a totally essential element – your tools for organizing.
Being organized is the key to a stress free wedding. If you absolutely can’t organize, then you need to find help immediately. Perhaps you have a friend who’s willing to take on the task of organizing your wedding. If you don’t, consider hiring someone to do it for you.

Wedding Professionals

A professional Wedding Planner would be advantageous: she/he will be a master at organizing and equipped with experience that only someone who has been through a lot of weddings can have.

Your wedding planner will be great at helping you negotiate for the best services and the best prices from vendors. They can even act as an intermediary between you and your family member’s opinions. A professional can take care of everything while you simply relax and enjoy the journey.

In many cases, the cost of the wedding planner is offset by the money they will save you by using their connections and negotiating skills to get you the things you need to fulfill your dream.
Your wedding planner will take care of all the wedding planning necessities. All of the external factors, such as the location, caterer, invitations, wedding apparel, music, flowers, photographers and etiquette would be part of their responsibility.

At some point in the journey you may see the value in having a Wedding Coach as well.

A Wedding Coach works with the internal factors of the participants in the wedding, particularly the two stars of the day - the Bride and the Groom. This is the inner journey towards being a relaxed and radiant bridal couple... That means during wedding planning…navigating through stress, lack of sleep, disagreements, opinions, bridal jitters and overwhelm.. to just name a few!

As Wedding Coaches, we guide the bride and groom through the transition from singlehood to married life. We help the couple focus on the internal emotional changes in a positive way, so that they can build a strong and healthy foundation for their marriage. By helping the wedding couple create their dream wedding, calmness and joy are brought into the wedding preparation process, the ceremony, and beyond.

Mitta and Sandy
Wedding Coaches
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Wedding Coaching Tip #1 Bridezilla, Bridal Jitters, Wedding Planning Overwhelm

When you are getting married everyone around you, family and friends, wedding magazines & books, and even you, expect the time leading up to the wedding to be so full of joy and ecstasy and the wedding day to be the happiest day of your life.
But, now you might be finding yourself feeling stressed out, very emotional, irritable, and overwhelmed. Why are you feeling this way?

There's nothing wrong with you. Getting married is one of the biggest life-changing events you'll ever experience. It's also a transformation from singlehood to marriage and a rite of passage! It's a big deal!
With the stress of planning a wedding, many brides (and grooms) can experience extreme anxiety which can be expressed in many different ways.
Think of all the beautiful brides that have turned into bridezillas right before your very eyes, without even being aware of it!

Many brides and grooms have cold feet during wedding planning. This can be normal or can be a sign of a problem. Talk to your fiancé about your feelings. And if necessary, a counselor or health professional...

Many couples will experience "wedding jitters", but this is usually a case of feeling overwhelmed with all the planning and everyone's opinions. This is perfectly normal and can be helped by allocating tasks, downtime, talking to your fiancé and friend or family, and resolving issues that come up as they occur.

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Tips for Bridal Jitters and Overwhelm

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EXCITING NEW BOOK!

The Secret To A Fabulous Wedding
How To Be A Relaxed and Radiant Bride

We are offering frazzled brides everywhere a deep and calming breath of fresh air with our new book.

The Secret To A Fabulous Wedding acknowledges both the
inner feelings of the bride-to-be and the outer circumstances of planning a wedding, including stress management, nutrition, jitters, health and beauty tips, communication, etiquette, families, emotional and financial cost, websites and resources, and much more!

"The beautiful bride is a relaxed woman who is confident about herself, a bride who looks forward to her wedding day free of anxiety.

There are so many joys, surprises and so much love possible on this journey, and we hope to be able to uncover, release and encourage this, along with a sense of self-awareness. We hope this book inspires you to be yourself, to hold true to your values, and to build a foundation for a long, loving and successful marriage."

Sandra Reid and Mitta Vicki Wise
Wedding Coaches

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WHAT IS A WEDDING COACH?

Wedding coaches help directly with stress, feelings and emotions.

The bridal coaching relationship is mutually designed by both the coach and bride for the sole benefit of the bride’s learning and achievement of his or her goals. Coaching relates to the future and how to get more out of your life. Coaching is not about fixing, it is about creating. By working with us you will have greater success in your wedding planning, managing stress and overwhelm, setting goals, reasonable expectations, negotiating compromises while creating joy and the life of your dreams.

We are here to help you. We’ll guide you in determining what is truly important to you while planning your wedding.

What do we do?
We work with you by telephone, email or in person with anything that needs attention at this important and busy transition time.

Using goal setting, affirmations, visualization and other cutting edge techniques we show you how to let go of fears, reduce stress, bring joy into the process and create the wedding of your dreams!

Through our coaching you will learn the power of intention and visioning so your life is transformed as your dreams are manifested. And the routine of wedding planning becomes filled with gratitude, celebration and joy.

Our program is client-centered and can be customized to address your concerns and issues. Wedding coaching is tailored for each and every budget.

Telephone:
Our coaching plans are flexible whether it’s one or several issues you are working with. We can work with you alone, with your groom, or with any other family members and can arrange teleconference calls for the entire family if need be.
30 minutes/One Hour sessions

Email Wedding Coaching
Send us a question as needs come up and we will answer it.
Email responses will be in a timely fashion.

In person
Please contact us for more information

Mitta and Sandy
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Wedding as a Rite of Passage

A wedding is one of the most important rites of passage in a person’s life.

What’s that? You’re marking an internal shift from being single to being married. The focus will no longer be on you alone. In front of your family and friends, you create a new life - a marriage.

From the day of your marriage forward, you will need to consider that you are part of a family- a “we, not only a “me.”
If that sounds a little scary, that’s because it is!
An internal shift of this magnitude only happens at a few points in your life.

A good marriage will allow for the fact that neither of you is perfect. Not today, and not in the years to come. Both of you will need to bring forth the very best within you in order to create a “we” that grows with time. You’ll need to learn to overlook the small things that your “me” might have problems with, and look toward how to nourish the relationship. When you do that, your relationship will serve as your bedrock- the place to which you return over and over again to receive reassurance, strength, love and hope.

The Secret to a Fabulous Wedding

The Day of Wine & Roses

Do It Yourself Wedding Reception Idea #1

Ahhh, do it yourself wedding receptions…now this is where the fun begins! Whether you want to save money in your wedding planning or want to be sure it is extra special and personalized, a reception is the focal point. While your ceremony will be short and whir by, your reception is where guests will let loose and celebrate. A do it yourself wedding reception is a party to be remembered!
You can do all the elements of a wedding reception yourself: food, entertainment, music, favors, drinks, centerpieces, other decorations and the dreaded clean-up afterwards…but it might be safer for you to look over the following idea.

Unique Wedding Reception Idea: Wine Tasting for a Wine Wedding Theme

If you are looking for a unique wedding reception idea and especially if you are having a wine wedding theme, a wine tasting at your reception is the perfect fit for you! A wine tasting at a reception is a fun way for guests to entertain themselves, especially the guests who aren’t as interested in dancing. Besides sampling and talking about the different wines, guests are also drinking and having a good time. A wine tasting at your wedding reception is also an excellent icebreaker for guests who don’t know each other.

Certainly if you are having a wine wedding theme, a wine tasting is nothing new to you, but it still is a unique wedding reception idea and fits perfectly with your theme! Rather than cheesy games, have a wine tasting table. A wine tasting table will add an element of sophistication and class to your wedding reception.

What You’ll Need For a Wedding Reception Wine Tasting

Table -- A separate table, preferably off to the side of the reception area that will strictly be the wine tasting table.

Sign -- Some sort of sign that identifies the table as a “wine tasting” table since this is a unique wedding reception idea...guests might not be familiar with the format. Perhaps another sign (or printed papers) listing the wines available to taste, including producer, vintage, region where it is from, etc.

Glasses -- Several tasting wine glasses are necessary. Extras can be stored under the table (cover table with fabric that drapes so it is hidden) so they don’t take up too much room on the table surface.

Wine -- Offer at least four different wines. You can offer two reds and two whites. You could offer all reds from the same wine region, or an assortment of wines from the same vintage. Select wines that compliment your wine wedding theme. Have several bottles of each wine you are offering, depending on your number of guests. Remember, these wines are for tasting not for gulping down, so you don’t need to have enough to get everyone drunk, that is what the other booze is for.

Ice Buckets -- If you are offering white wines at your tasting table you will need ice buckets for each different white to chill them.

Host -- Someone needs to supervise and “host” the wine tasting table so that guests don’t simply poor huge glasses of wine to gulp down and walk away. A host can be a hired person provided by a catering service or a special wine enthusiastic friend. This person can pour the wine and even answer questions about them if needed.

Optional: Spit Buckets, Bread, Water -- A spit bucket is offered so that guests can spit out the wines instead of swallowing. This is optional and most likely since it is a wine wedding theme reception, not needed. A small basket of bread can be available for guests to cleanse their palate and water can be available to rinse glasses in between wines. These items are optional.

It’s your wedding, do it the way you want!
The Secret to a Fabulous Wedding

The Wedding Budget Brain

The “Wedding Brain,” can envelop you in a fog. You might actually believe that you can afford to buy a dress that’s significantly more expensive than your budget. In fact, you can even be talked into it. You might decide that you absolutely, positively, have to have a particular kind of champagne for your reception, even after you find out that it will cost you $150 a bottle, not $50. A florist may present you with a number of gorgeous options, and you suddenly must have the white orchids instead of the white roses you had in your budget.

Of course, this kind of thinking is like a freight train. Once it gets started, it sort of propels itself forward. You choose a different dress, and then you have to have the shoes that go with it. Suddenly, your flowers look too plain with your new dress. Before you know it, you have gone into hundreds or even thousands of dollars over budget.

Stick to your budget and priorities and it will pay off!

Again, the answer is in being yourself, grounding yourself, paying attention to what you’re doing and why you’re doing it. If you’re trying to be something you’re not, it’s an extremely expensive proposition!

Stop, Look, and Listen.

At every step of the wedding process you need to:

Stop: Assess who you are and who you are trying to be for the wedding.

Look: Stay grounded. Analyze the amount of money you have to spend, and create your wedding budget accordingly.

Listen: Listen to your own body, and your own inner voice. If you feel frantic and anxious and if your thoughts are racing, go back to “Stop.” Re-assess.

Sandy and Mitta
Wedding Coaches
http://www.bestweddingcoach.com

Bridezilla NOT!

Why spend thousands on a wedding dress (and wedding) and be miserable!

There is so much wedding stress in this day and age what with the quest for perfection and the costs of a big wedding.

We at bestweddingcoach.com are wedding coaches dedicated to helping you, the bride, manage your emotions and have a great time at your wedding.
We help you with the transition and transformation from me to we - the rite of passage.

That shift is of seismic proportions!
It automatically brings up every emotion you’re capable of having – and those feelings are probably amplified. Our culture is so focused on the special day that the internal shift is often ignored.

The bride is the center of attention, but the irony of it is, her emotional self can be ignored. As she makes the shift from “me” to “we” the feelings that come up can end up being projected onto the details of the wedding.

We mentor and show you ways to overcome bridal jitters, fears, overwhelm, stress, low energy etc and create your dream wedding..
Have some fun on the journey too!

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